I'm trying to make drawing live streams and I'll edit those to small videos like this one, a like/comment/watch is appreciated! :D
REACT COLLECTION
What a beautiful gang of reactions I saw on this post! I simply have to share it with the world:
I am fulfilled. Thank you @brickwhartley !
post reactions brick's latest great idea just wanted to make this post stinky
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are you ever like. i’m not the right Me right now to hang out with people. wait until the better guy shows up lol this one kind of sucks
www.girl - Toy-Box (2001)
Happy All Hallows Eve! 🎃🦇🍂🐀
Wanted to expand on @alexbeeza(insta) Death Note MLP AU, by incorporating some of the animes design elements, and I really liked how they turned out!
Btw if we're mutuals and you feel like you always have to start the conversation I'm really sorry, my ADHD means I'm really bad at keeping track of people that aren't literally in front of me so it's very hard for me to keep up with Internet friends, even the ones I love the most cuz I'm either like "oh I wonder how they're doing?" and then do nothing about it or I'm like "oh so and so is messaging me yay! I wonder what's happened in the couple days since we last spoke!!" and they're like "so how was your summer" and I'm like "what?" and the last time we spoke was April.
Tl:dr; please don't read my lack of initiation as lack of caring, I'm just very bad at friendship maintenance skills like time management and task initiation
Don’t be like this, you’re
not bothering me I just
have adhd
Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.
penicillin was first discovered in 1928; vaginoplasty is less experimental
ibuprofen was first discovered in 1961; phalloplasty and HRT are less experimental
Adderall was first applied as an ADHD treatment in 1994; puberty blockers are less experimental
here’s a thought: the reason why adult/minor friendships are looked upon with suspicion, and the reason why adults with minor friends are accused of being predatory or having bad intentions, is because we think that minors don’t have anything of value to offer adults that isn’t sex/a relationship. it’s a continuation of the way adults devalue minors and their perspectives and contributions to the world.
….No it’s definitely because there’s a huge power imbalance
do you really think we solve that power imbalance with segregation?
op is absolutely right. this is coming from someone who researches and teaches on age and society professionally. modern western society is age-segregated to an unprecedented degree and there is ample evidence that it is absolutely fucking us over. it’s linked to everything from economic hardship to mental health crises.
intergenerational friendships are important. adults who never interact with young people outside of a defined institutional relationship with a built-in power imbalance (like being a parent or teacher) don’t develop the capacity to treat young people as equals, which reinforces patterns of abuse, neglect, social disempowerment, and silencing. young people who lack meaningful connections with adults outside of those same institutions miss out on an incredible source of support and guidance. and everyone misses out on the basic human joy of friendships that could have been really meaningful if we didn’t have this weird, broken ideology that says young people have nothing interesting to say, and no value to adults who don’t either want to raise them or exploit them or both.
op is right and they should say it.
This lack of intergenerational friendships is also very modern, very western, and very much an oddity in history. Make sure we keep them healthy, but make sure we strive to have them.
I’m nearing 30 now but still have friends in high school, because we have similar interests (D&D, video games, other hobbies, etc), and I try to be a positive, guiding force for them. Some of them have abusive or neglectful parents (not to a point that they could probably take any legal action but that will definitely cause lingering emotional damage) and I listen to them and assure them whatever their parents did/said wasn’t their fault. I try to guide them away from bad choices that I or my friends may have made in our youth. And I try to share knowledge they may not be getting from other sources, like telling a female friend without a mother or mother figure and poor sex ed that what they experience with their body and feelings is normal and not something to be worried/ashamed of.
I’m not having any kids of my own, so the least I can do is try to steer a few members of the next generation in a positive direction, and I even get a few friends out of it.
This is how knowledge is passed down. No I will NOT give up my intergenerational friendships, both older and younger.
My oldest friend who I basically consider a sister had been my friend since I was around 13 and she was in her 20s. There was NEVER anything predatory about it and she helped me out so much when my family hit hard times.
Thing is, she’s actually the same age as my biological sister. I never see my bio sister though so I was and still am closer to this friend. But my point is to me there was never anything weird about talking to a person that much older than me as a friends because I was expected to anyway.
It’s just like anything else in this world. There are bad people. There will always be bad people.
Who don’t do the right thing. And yes, young people should be careful. But age gaps in friendship are not inherently bad.
@princecharmingtobe This is the exact kind of friendship I want to foster with younger people myself. I’ve dealt with a lot of shit in my childhood and teens and I really just want to be there to support and love on people who are going through the same. I have so much respect for people younger than me and their value as human beings themselves. I hate the way adults treat kids as though they should have no agency or control over their lives, only to then expect them to be competent adults when they reach a socially acceptable age to be their own boss. If I can make even one teen or child feel like they have value and add meaning to the lives around them, and make them feel loved and appreciated, I’m going to do anything I possibly can to make that happen.
One of my dearest friends when I was 13 was this 71 year old painter who taught me about art and how to turn my pain into something productive.
Another friend, 42, started out as a tutor and turned into this gay mentor/cheerleader who has always believed and supported me.
Both men, both Hispanic, both absolutely lovely people. Both friends of my parents who were aware every time I interacted with them. Both still dear to me seven years later
When I was around…. 13 years old, I think, there was this woman I met on a forum. She was an adult, in her thirties, and she was the original “wtf is wrong with your family” person in my life. tl;dr my family is fucked up sometimes, and the woman made it a point to check in with me, make sure I was okay, and check in with me, give me advice on how to survive that crap, etc. And this was all before I even started coping with how messed up my life was. I lost touch with her a few years later when I left the forum, and I’ve always wished I could find her again and tell her I’m okay. I doubt she even remembers me, honestly, but she was the first person in my life to confirm what I think I always knew, but didn’t want to admit - that there was something seriously wrong with my life, and my parents, that I wasn’t delusional, etc. She was also a major geek who loved ATLA, and helped me get into making music videos. She was a good influence in my life in so many ways, and the saddest part is I don’t think she ever knew how much she helped me.
After that, I joined another forum, again, made a couple of adult friends, and again, they helped me deal with my crappy life. I left the forum when I was seventeen, but I still remember them, and how much they helped.
When I was 20 – not a teenager anymore, but not quite mentally an adult yet – I joined a roleplaying game where most of the players were 5-20 years older than me, and these days they’re some of my closest friends – hell, I liked one of them so much I married her. Two of them stood with me at my wedding, and several of them came from other states and countries to go to the wedding.
My best friendships have been largely with people who are older than me. Don’t get me wrong, I met plenty of great people online who were my age (I’m going to her bridesmaid at her wedding this year, and she was the bridesmaid at mine last year), but adult friendships are what kept me sane until I could get tf out away from my parents. I’ve never forgotten, and I try to pay it forward with anyone who’s younger than me and happens to come across my path.
Good adult friendships are so healthy and affirming, especially when you’re a kid in a toxic household. Normalize the fuck out of them.
One of my best friends is ten years younger than me. When she was freaking out and almost considering self harm over her gpa scores, I was the one to tell her that from where she was standing, things would look bleak and “you only have one shot then you’re done” because it was how they looked to me back then, and I told her that if she failed, she could try again, that she was so young, that things would be fine and life is not a race.
None of her same-age classmates and friends would be able to give her this clarity because none of them had this time distance of the situation. They were all freaking out over their own gpa scores too. An older person’s perspective can be really valuable to a younger person facing some challenges for the first time.
Be wary, but don’t automatically turn your back on an older friend if they’re respectful, polite and only wants your best; as long as they respect your boundaries, they can provide you with lessons you haven’t learned yet.
This also has roots in America’s whole bag of physical contact = sexual interest issues, I think.






















